What's in a Name?

Just a short, observational note today. 

I was asked the other day what the nickname, "teapot" had to do with submission.
Of course, there is the back story of how the name came to be in the first place. In addition to that though, there are several points to be made regarding the nick.

A tea pot is an object used for serving. It is a vessel, constructed to contain and dispense whatever its owner or user desires. Most are constructed in such a way as to be pleasing to the eye, in addition to being convenient to grip, hold, and otherwise put to use.

Playtime, Fun & Service - More of what to expect in my collar.

 This a list of many of the things I enjoy and will commonly expect from you/will do to you.
As you have, no doubt, figured out, if you have read my, "Seeking slaves", post and the "Slave Rules" post, I am, in many ways, very strict, and expect full obedience and service from my slaves.
That does not mean we won't have fun!
As with the rules list, this is in no particular order, for the most part. I am adding things as I think of them.
Let's just get this out of the way right now...
I am a sadist with a very twisted sense of humour! (I have references) That said, I will ALWAYS take great care to avoid doing any actual harm, be it physical, mental, emotional, or spiritual, to my slaves or subs.
I will take great delight in confusing, confounding, teasing, titillating, frightening, infuriating, frustrating, and otherwise fucking with you for my amusement.
I love to make a grown man or woman cry.
It will please and amuse me to make you hate me even while you betray yourself by begging for more, thanking me when it is over, and being eager for the next time.
That said, I WILL NOT leave any doubt as to whether I am genuinely displeased with you. Ever. Period! If you are being truly punished, I will tell you. You will also always know why you are being punished. I may not tell you immediately, and will often make you work to figure it out, because I feel that is more likely to make a lesson stick, but I will make damn sure that it is clear by the end of the day, at the latest. As a former slave, I have been in the position of knowing I was displeasing, and knowing I was being punished, but not understanding what I did/was doing wrong. It is a horrible feeling and serves no purpose, and I will not subject any slave of mine to that!
Now that we have that out of the way, on to more fun (and some mundane) stuff!
Being my slave will not all be fun and games, nor will it always be high protocol. Sometimes I may just want to converse with you. Though we will not converse as equals, I don't want to be stiff and formal all the time either. I like a slave who has his or her own opinions, can hold up their end of a debate, and show me their fiery spirit, all whilst maintaining their proper place as a slave. Show me you can do that, and I will be pleased!
On any given day that you are with me, you may be expected to clean house, move furniture, work on fix-it projects, cook and/or serve me meals, perform for my amusement, massage me, or any number of other things.
When dining, I might seat you beside or across from me and expect you to behave as a conventional dining companion, or I may just keep you at my feet and make you beg or do tricks for scraps, which I will feed you by hand, or toss to you. Maybe you will even eat from a pan on the floor, forbidden to use your hands. As with all things, it will be according to my whim.
I am a rather avid cigar smoker. When I am enjoying a cigar, you will attend me as I desire. That may mean bringing what I require, and then making yourself scarce, unless summoned, or it may mean serving as my ashtray, footstool, and toy, massaging or otherwise servicing my feet, sexually pleasuring me; Or anything in between. You will, at times, be expected to accompany me to cigar meetups, where you will conduct yourself with proper decorum in a manner which will make me proud, and incite envy among my peers, but will not non-consensually involve others in our D/s dynamic.
In fact, that will be true of many situations when you are accompanying me out and about, in non kink situations.
I enjoy things like playing fetch with a slave, or putting slaves in competitive games with one another for the amusement of those watching.
A few things that come to mind:

• Wrestling.. Oil and/or nudity possible.
• Races, with or without paddles, whips, etc as "encouragement"... sack races, 3 legged races, kinky relay races.. All those "kid games", but all grown up!
• Contests of will.. such as seeing which slave can delay orgasm the longest, while other slaves or free do their best to make you lose control.
• Slave rodeo games.

I'm sure I can think of LOTS more!
I have 20+ years of experience in various BDSM activities, and enjoy a WIDE range of things, both from the top and bottom perspective. That means that I am just as likely to be on a rack being worked over by someone at an event as I am to be working YOU over. In fact, There may well even be times that I put a nice, thuddy flogger, or other delicious implements in your hands and direct you to have a go at me until I tire of it. (or until you are genuinely unable to continue without risk to my property). Make no mistake, however... This in NO way alters our dynamic. I am in charge. Again.. my slaves exist to please me, regardless of what it is that may be pleasing to me at any given moment in time.
I do take pleasure in doing things that I know will make a slave happy, so I will definitely make a point of incorporating play or other things that I know you will enjoy. Sometimes I like to surprise a slave with something completely unexpected.
Well.. Okay.. I USUALLY like to do that, but once in a while, the surprise will be specifically calculated to delight the slave.

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This posting is a work in progress at the moment, and will be added to or changed as needed.

Questions and comments, especially ones that might help me make this post more comprehensive are more than welcome!

"Slave Rules" - A somewhat meandering list of what to expect in my collar.

 I included a good deal of information in my, "seeking slaves", post, but, it occurs to me that there is SOOO much more information to impart than what that post contains.
So, for those who wish more information, here it is!
Now, of course, there is no way to include each and every nuance of what life in my collar will be like, but I CAN supply a pretty comprehensive list of the basics and beyond.
Some things will be negotiable; Some will not. Many are sure to require effort on my part and that of the slave to implement, as habits take time to form, just as much as to break. This list is not in any particular order, and there will be overlap from the other postings.
This post contains rules, mainly. This post contains more information about things to expect.

• First and foremost: Take proper care of my property!

• I will be informed, fully and promptly of any and all health/safety issues (illness, injury, concerns, etc.).

• You will follow ALL of your doctor's and other medical professionals' orders and recommendations as regards your health and safety. We will make certain that your providers are kink aware and friendly, so this can be done properly.

• You will maintain a healthy diet, which will include at least two well balanced meals per day.

Note that this does not mean that you will be put on "a diet" or have the amount of food you eat restricted (except in the case of food addiction or other necessary health reasons, as meted out by your health care providers), but you will not be allowed to eat a steady diet of junk food, processed foods and fast food. Those things will be allowed only in moderation.

• Your primary purpose is to please me.

• You will strive to be pleasing and obedient to all free persons, within my rules and limits.

Even if you are unable to be pleasing and obedient, due to circumstances beyond your control (I do realise that some people are simply impossible to please, and/or refuse to respect the wishes of a slave's owner.), you will remain deferential and respectful, and will always promptly apologise when you have been found displeasing, REGARDLESS of whether it is reasonable. I will help you learn to balance personal safety and maintaining your place.

• Once the collar goes on, you will have no "rights". None! This is very important to understand! All privileges will be dispensed or removed at my whim.

Yes, you are human and have needs, and I consider it my duty to see to it that those needs are met, however, I do not owe a slave anything, and my slaves will remember that.. at the end of a lash, if necessary.

• You will be at my beck and call at all times.

I will not interfere with your work or family obligations, which is why you will keep me informed and up to date, with regard to your schedule, at all times. I have priority over non preplanned, non-family, social plans or outings, so if you schedule something without my okay, it will be your own fault if you have to cancel. I will not make you cancel plans with family, but if it is a non-emergency thing and I was not informed, you will be punished. Keep this in mind. All it takes is a quick message to me, letting me know you want to do something. I am very reasonable about these things, as long as you follow my directions.

• You will be expected to make certain that there is time in your schedule to spend at least a day or two a week with me, possibly overnight.

This does NOT obligate me to spend that amount of time with you. You exist to please and serve me, not the other way 'round. Never forget this.

• If you have children, they are your Number ONE Priority, at all times, no matter what!

This trumps the previous two rules. If I EVER find that you have neglected your children's needs, for any avoidable reason, there will be hell to pay!
This is completely NON NEGOTIABLE and is something likely to cause me to dismiss you from my service in disgrace, without hesitation.

• During some times when we are together, you will beg permission for most things. This includes, but is not limited to, eating, drinking, smoking, using furniture, putting on or removing clothing, including outerwear, or anything which requires you to leave my presence, however briefly.

The manner in which you will be expected to beg will depend on the circumstances and present company. For instance, in kink friendly situations, you will kneel and beg as an abject slave. In public, you will more likely ask politely to be excused or use codes or non verbal signals, with which I will provide you.

• You will provide me with detailed information about your fantasies, fears, and desires, so that I may more precisely tailor playtime with you and understand what makes you tick.

I often enjoy making a slave's fantasies come true. There are times that pleasing you will please me, and you are responsible for helping me to do that, when I so desire.

• you will be expected to keep a journal, in which you will be permitted to express anything at all, in any fashion you wish, without fear of punishment.

I will have access to said journal, but may or may not read it regularly. If there are entries that you specifically wish me to read, you will need to direct my attention to it and beg me to read it.

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This posting is a work in progress at the moment, and will be added to or changed as I see fit.

Questions and comments, especially ones that might help me make this post more comprehensive are more than welcome!

Foot Service

I enjoy full service pedicures, with much pampering for my feet, and without any expectations of sexual contact in any form. This is not to say that such would be always absolutely out of the question, with the right girl, but it should be assumed that it is, unless I tell you different.
This should include:

• soak

• scrub

• pumice

• massage (before, during, after, all of the above is all good!) with nice oils

• nail trimming/shaping

• moisturising

It can include:

• nail buffing, polishing, conditioning, etc. 

• pedicure (I have everything needed for full gel/"shellac" mani/pedi, in many colours, including lots of nail art/bling supplies)
• leg massage (Highly encouraged!)

• Paraffin wax  (I have wax and bags)
  

• .... Open to negotiation, if you have other ideas.

There will be ABSOLUTELY NO:

• Licking, sucking, slobbering on, nibbling, chewing, or otherwise putting your mouth on my feet!

( This pretty well sums up my thoughts on that, just to be very clear! )
... With the possible exception of minimal, LIGHT, not slobbery, kissing on the tops of them with lips only and my permission.

• Humping my feet.

• Rubbing or excessively "resting" my feet on your genitals.

• Trying to cop a feel or massaging your way up to my genital region, without my express consent. (note.. That doesn't mean starting to do so and then asking, "is that okay?". It means not going there, at all, unless I ask you to and you consent to it.)

• trying to obligate me to do something for you in return. If simply being of service doesn't do it for you, you need not apply.

• Doing anything to you unless I decide to, without being badgered about it, and you have already consented to such.

In short, foot service is an experience that should be completely relaxing and pleasurable for me. I do not want to have to be on guard or tense, because I have to keep tabs on telling you that your hands are too close to my pussy, or that I really don't want my foot massaged with your cock/balls/pussy/tits/mouth, or feel annoyed cause you are trying to play with my tits, rather than massaging me.
This is not about you. It is about me. It is about providing a service with no expectation other than my gratitude (no, "gratitude" is not code for a blowjob!!) and praise for a job well done. I MAY choose to reward you in some fashion, but am not obligated to do so.
(If you read all this and you are interested, please do feel free to send me a polite message, here or on whichever site where you initially "found" me)

I do realize that some of this may come off as a bit defensive, however, believe me, ALL the things listed on the no list are things that I have, not once or twice, but repeatedly - nearly every damn time someone has offered massage/foot service - encountered. I'm just tired of it! For those who wouldn't dream of being so crass, it isn't directed at you at all, and there should be more like you!