Manumission

Being that I am a woman of honour, my word is my bond. Thus, I find it offensive when my honour is called into question without good cause. 

HOWEVER, for those who still wish to doubt, quibble, or otherwise question my status, find below the entire slave record, including the proof of my manumission. If anyone requires additional clarification, my dear friend, former owner, and Free Man of my City has graciously agreed to explain further. Simply ask, and I will put you in contact with him. Good luck.

Real Life "Panther Girls/Women" Are Not Gorean

 

Yes, I know this view is terribly unpopular amongst a certain subset of women in Gorean circles, but I stand by it, and have reasonable arguments to back it up. 

The discussion of the panther women/girls arises frequently in Gorean venues, and there are invariably those women who identify as such, arguing that they are Gorean, and that their identification as panthers is perfectly legitimate, since they existed in the books and are, therefore, Gorean. 

There is a fatal flaw in this logic, however. 

As with all the characters in the books who were originally from the planet, Gor, the panther girls/women were Gorean. They were Gorean because they were from Gor, regardless of their philosophical ideals, beliefs, or behaviour.

Their inclusion in the books were used as an allegory to many real life women and modern, societal elements or movements, and, as a contrast against the ideals by which the majority of Gorean society lived in the stories.

Being Gorean in real life means making a conscious decision to embrace and live according to the philosophies, tenets, & ideals put forth within the books. So, lets take a look at what the books say about panther women...

(Bold formatting in quotes added by me, for emphasis.)

    "Slave girls who escape masters or some free women, who will not accept the matches arranged by their parents, or reject the culture of Gor, occasionally flee to these forests and live together in bands..."
    ~ Assassin of Gor,   Page 293-294

Sometimes free women, miserable and unhappy in their lives, resentful of the conventional constraints commonly imposed on them in the cities and towns, fleeing unwanted matches, debtors hoping to escape the law and such, attempted to join a band of Panther Girls.
    ~ Smugglers of Gor, Page 277

        "Who are these women?" I asked. "Where do they come from?"
    "Some were doubtless once slaves," said Ute. "Others were once free women. Perhaps they did not care for matches arranged by their parents. Perhaps they did not care for the ways of their cities with respect to women..."
    ~ Captive of Gor,   Page 81-82

So, these are women who reject the culture of Gor. They are not happy with the conventional, Gorean ways, and wish to live otherwise. Now, in the fiction, these Gorean ways are forced upon them. They did not make a choice to be Gorean, only to then reject Gorean ways. They are stuck on a planet with certain, nearly worldwide, views which they do not share. It is understandable, even reasonable, for them to take drastic measures to escape to the forests to live a life they choose, rather than a life forced upon them. 

They chose to become outlaws because they were completely against Gorean ethos, or because their respective cities did not allow them to be themselves - perhaps tried to impose some rather ridiculous (and often, unnatural, by the way) societal mores upon them, so fled to the forests to do their own thing.
VERY Gorean, if you ask me. They chose freedom over a form of enslavement. Cause, lets face it.. being a FW, especially in some of the the cities of the books was not really what could be called real freedom.

How is any of that relevant to living on Earth, in real life though? 

It is not. If one does not wish to adhere to Gorean ethos - to live according to Gorean beliefs, tenets, ideals - if one does not wish to embrace Gorean ways, there is a VERY simple solution...

Don't be Gorean!

That's all there is to it! Modern society and the laws therein are on your side. You are free to come and go as you please in the majority of cities in the developed world, and many elsewhere too. You are not going to be forced into an arranged marriage, forcibly enslaved, made to wear robes and veils, have a male chaperone, etc. There are hardly any establishments from which you are barred, simply because you are a free female. You can wear what you want, dance as you please, be as sensuous and provocative as you like, and have sex (or not) with any consenting adult, without fear of being brought before a magistrate and legally enslaved. 

 

Gorean women - that is, women who choose to adhere to Gorean principles in their real, daily life - understand and embrace our womanhood and femininity. We know we are not the same as men, and that people are not simply identical creatures with some different reproductive parts, and we revel in that fact and our differences.

"Are panther girls truly so strong?" she asked.
"Not really," I said. "Once captured and conquered, collared and silked, their thigh burned by the iron, thrown to a man's feet, they are as quick to kiss and lick as any woman. Indeed, they make superb slaves. They bring high prices in the markets. They are only girls desperate to fight their femininity. "
    ~ Beasts of Gor, Page 239-240

Now, I would argue that the panther women in the books were definitely stronger than most of their city dwelling counterparts, and absolutely stronger and more capable than the average, real life, Earth dwelling person in developed countries. They had to be, if they wished to survive the harsh conditions of the Gorean wilderness. they were skilled with weapons, hunting big, dangerous game, forestry, building and maintaining their own shelters, tracking and navigating, and just general self reliance. They were regularly able to capture, hold, and sell free men, even getting the jump on seasoned warriors some of the time, so yeah... They were actually pretty badass, but that isn't the point.

     Panther Girls are commonly filled with hatred; they commonly resent and hate men, whom it seems, oddly enough, they appear to envy and attempt to emulate, but, interestingly, perhaps even more, they commonly resent and hate typical free women, perhaps because such women are too female, and too unlike men.
    ~ Smugglers of Gor, Page 277

The point is that they commonly deny their very nature as women. They force themselves to deny their sexuality to the point that they completely lose their everloving minds every so often, and have to go do some feral, rabid "dance" ritual where they tear off their clothes and scream and moan in misery, clawing at the earth and the sky, and/or raping any captured men they have handy because they can't help themselves. And they do all this insane self denial because they fear being lost to their own natures and brought to their knees at the feet of strong men. Not fear of strong men forcibly enslaving them, but fear of their own bodies and emotions enslaving them. 

Now, I'm sure that some of them are not denying anything, and are just doing what they gotta to do be able to live authentically, and more power to them. But again, that's not a thing here in reality.

 There is no need for free women to be the frigid, sexless, and emotionally devoid creatures they were expected to be in some of the societies in the books (note: there were several book societies in which this was NOT the case.. Free women wore more reasonable clothing, went where they pleased, alone or not, etc. 

I believe it's pretty clear that the Panthers of the books were there simply to show that there were some women who were neither slave material, nor the completely repressed FW of the cities.

Here in reality, we can, and I feel, should, if we are to call ourselves Gorean, allow our FULL natures to shine through, as appropriate; rather than pretend. I believe that is a lot of what the extremes were there in the books to teach us.

It's very important to remember that the extremes were created as literary devices to make points.

 Some self identified "Panthers" claim that they choose the moniker because they identify with the strong, wild, free roaming traits of the panther women of the books.

I identify with all of those traits as well. I am rather well trained and skilled in hand to hand and combat with weapons. I can survive out in the forests on my own quite well (less easily, as I get older and old injuries come back to bite me in the ass, but still just fine...), as well as on the streets, or pretty much anywhere else I find myself, on my own, and generally end up protecting others also. I am strong, proud, fierce when need be, etc...

My point though, was that, although I identify in many ways with the Panthers, I don't identify as one. It is unnecessary. Like I said before, we don't have to make that choice here on Earth. We are Gorean, and we are free. And on Earth, in reality, that freedom can absolutely encompass all that the Panthers of the books had to run away to the forests to have.

I also identify with the Torvaldslanders, having Norse heritage and a goodly part of my spiritual path being based in Asatru, but I do not call myself a Torvie either. Because it is a fictional element that serves no real purpose outside of the books, in my opinion, since we already HAVE the equivalents here.

What is a Gorean Free Woman?

 

 

I believe that a Gorean free woman should, first of all, be committed to living by Gorean principles, philosophies, tenets, ideals, etc, just like anyone calling themselves Gorean.

• She should understand and revel in the fact that she is equal (in worth, and almost in status) to, but not the SAME as a man.

Yes, she may well be more capable in many areas, than many men, and some women may even be more capable than the average man at some of the things at which men more commonly excel, but she should not spend her life trying to prove it.

• As a woman, she graciously and gracefully encourages, empowers, and entrusts the men around her to be men, without constantly challenging them just because she CAN. She knows her individual strengths and weaknesses and puts them to use in a way that is beneficial, not just to herself, but to her family and community, and complementary to the men in her life.

• She never attempts to emasculate men; Even if they deserve it or seem to be doing a good job of it themselves, she does not dignify it with her notice .

This isn't to say that she will cover their asses for them if they do it to themselves, nor will she compromise her own honour or integrity to help someone else save face, but she will be supportive to those in her community who are deserving of such.

• She never hides or is ashamed of her femaleness, but rather celebrates it, with pride!

Here on Earth, in real life, we do not have to choose between being frigid, seemingly sexless, inert creatures, or being enslaved.
I believe that what Norman was really trying to point out with his extremes between frigid, haughty, shrill, tedious FW, and joyous, licking slaves, was that there is a balance.. That, as is stated a few times throughout the books, there is some of the slave and some of the FW in all women. I really think this is true, and that we should not hide who we are for the sake of convention.

• She enjoys being treated as a lady, being protected, cared for, and nurtured, having bags, boxes, doors and chairs held or carried for her...

Even though she can do all those things for herself, and does not NEED a man to do them for her, she does not see it as an insult or a condescending act, but rather, a tribute to her womanhood. By the same token, her gracious acceptance of such things is a tribute to their manhood.

• She understands and accepts, gracefully, the fact that somewhere out there, there is a man, or men, who is her "natural master", and that, if she ever meets one of them, she will have no honest recourse but to take her place at his feet.

In summary:

• We are female, and proud of all that entails.
• We are strong. We do not compromise ourselves, our values, our honour, or our fellows.
• We do not pretend to be anything we are not, nor do we pretend not to be anything we are.

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*More of my thoughts on what it is to be a Gorean FW can be found here.

From the perspective of a former slave....

 I do realize that there are those who will never see me as a free woman because I was once a slave. I have already encountered a so-called "master", who presumed to order me to tell the girls who were addressing me properly that I was "no mistress" and, when I politely told him that I would not, as I was a free woman, he chastised those poor girls for "answering to a slave", and proclaimed my actions and words as "a girl's bullshit".

That is fine. I know who and what I am, and will not try to hide my past. I will celebrate, fully, the woman I am with no apologies and with pride. My time in the collar has helped me to learn what it is to be a woman and, indeed, has prepared me for being a BETTER free woman than I was before the collar.

I now know myself as a woman, and am happy to be so. No, I am not weak, by any stretch of the imagination, and there are few people, male or female, who can physically overpower me, but I no longer feel the need to constantly PROVE that. I enjoy letting men be men and not challenging them constantly, like I once did. I enjoy being treated as a lady, being protected, cared for, and nurtured, having bags, boxes, doors and chairs held or carried for me. Of course, I can do all those things for myself, and do not NEED a man to do them for me, however, I no longer see it as an insult or a condescending act, but rather, a tribute to my womanhood. And my gracious acceptance of such things is a tribute to their manhood. We are not the same, and that is beautiful!

Sure, sometimes I have more of my "male energy" going on, and in those times, I am more masculine than feminine, but I have learned that I do not have to hide any part of myself. And that does not negate the fact that I am a woman. I never would have come this far, if not for my years as a slave.

These are all things I may never have learned, had I not spent time as a slave. And, in fact, the books are full of examples of haughty, horrid free women who, after a period of enslavement and subsequent freedom, were the epitome of what a noble, Gorean, free woman ought to be!

So, yes. I was a slave and was happy and proud to have been one.

Now, I am free, and am happy and proud to be a free woman.

Those who accept that, welcome to this part of my journey. Those who cannot.. I have no words for, as they are not worth my time.

I hope that my path and my experiences can help others who may be on a similar path.. Perhaps my words can light the way, or even warn someone off that particular path. It doesn't matter to me, so long as my story is beneficial to someone!

Who are the true slaves.. FW or slaves?

 

This question was posed recently on one of the forums I am on, and I thought I would share my response here.
The question, in paraphrase, cited the fact that Gorean FW are constrained by "chains" of their station, forcing them to hide their true selves, as opposed to slaves, who, not only are not so constrained, but, in fact, MUST be completely open.

I think much depends on whether one is referring to the FW of the books, or those in real life. If the former, then, certainly, many of them wear, perhaps, the heaviest of chains.. Those of the denial of their true nature.
They are forbidden to show any nuance of "slave-like behaviour", lest they be fully enslaved. That may work in the fiction, but in reality, it is absurd! The FW of the books are, in their way, no more "free" than the average Earth woman!

You see, I agree with the idea that, in each woman, there is some slave and some free woman. Of course, how much of each is going to vary widely from woman to woman, but I do think that the vast majority of (straight) women will joyfully kneel before the right man, even if only behind closed doors.

That does not mean, however, (contrary to what the books seem to suggest, within the stories) that ALL women are cut out for slavery. In fact, I maintain that most are absolutely NOT! Despite the romantic ideal, where, time and time again, all it takes is a sufficient amount of violence to render a former FW into a joyfully licking, begging slave, most people prefer freedom. Goreans especially!

That said, here in reality, it is my belief that Gorean free women are more truly free than those in the books.
We know ourselves to be women.
We know that, in general, we are naturally more submissive than men.
We know that our femininity is something to be celebrated, relished, and cherished.. not hidden away as though it were some shameful secret.
We know that there is always the possibility that someday, some man will come along who will bring us to our knees at his feet, merely by being what he is.. A man. A TRUE man, and one who will master us.. heart, body, mind and soul, without even trying.
And we accept these facts with grace and decorum.
Unlike our fictional counterparts though, we are not forced to hide those delicious stirrings that we may feel.. for there is no risk of being summarily stripped and collared for the "crime" of being fully female.
We must only submit to those men who cause our own natures to demand it of us.

Playtime, Fun & Service - More of what to expect in my collar.

 This a list of many of the things I enjoy and will commonly expect from you/will do to you.
As you have, no doubt, figured out, if you have read my, "Seeking slaves", post and the "Slave Rules" post, I am, in many ways, very strict, and expect full obedience and service from my slaves.
That does not mean we won't have fun!
As with the rules list, this is in no particular order, for the most part. I am adding things as I think of them.
Let's just get this out of the way right now...
I am a sadist with a very twisted sense of humour! (I have references) That said, I will ALWAYS take great care to avoid doing any actual harm, be it physical, mental, emotional, or spiritual, to my slaves or subs.
I will take great delight in confusing, confounding, teasing, titillating, frightening, infuriating, frustrating, and otherwise fucking with you for my amusement.
I love to make a grown man or woman cry.
It will please and amuse me to make you hate me even while you betray yourself by begging for more, thanking me when it is over, and being eager for the next time.
That said, I WILL NOT leave any doubt as to whether I am genuinely displeased with you. Ever. Period! If you are being truly punished, I will tell you. You will also always know why you are being punished. I may not tell you immediately, and will often make you work to figure it out, because I feel that is more likely to make a lesson stick, but I will make damn sure that it is clear by the end of the day, at the latest. As a former slave, I have been in the position of knowing I was displeasing, and knowing I was being punished, but not understanding what I did/was doing wrong. It is a horrible feeling and serves no purpose, and I will not subject any slave of mine to that!
Now that we have that out of the way, on to more fun (and some mundane) stuff!
Being my slave will not all be fun and games, nor will it always be high protocol. Sometimes I may just want to converse with you. Though we will not converse as equals, I don't want to be stiff and formal all the time either. I like a slave who has his or her own opinions, can hold up their end of a debate, and show me their fiery spirit, all whilst maintaining their proper place as a slave. Show me you can do that, and I will be pleased!
On any given day that you are with me, you may be expected to clean house, move furniture, work on fix-it projects, cook and/or serve me meals, perform for my amusement, massage me, or any number of other things.
When dining, I might seat you beside or across from me and expect you to behave as a conventional dining companion, or I may just keep you at my feet and make you beg or do tricks for scraps, which I will feed you by hand, or toss to you. Maybe you will even eat from a pan on the floor, forbidden to use your hands. As with all things, it will be according to my whim.
I am a rather avid cigar smoker. When I am enjoying a cigar, you will attend me as I desire. That may mean bringing what I require, and then making yourself scarce, unless summoned, or it may mean serving as my ashtray, footstool, and toy, massaging or otherwise servicing my feet, sexually pleasuring me; Or anything in between. You will, at times, be expected to accompany me to cigar meetups, where you will conduct yourself with proper decorum in a manner which will make me proud, and incite envy among my peers, but will not non-consensually involve others in our D/s dynamic.
In fact, that will be true of many situations when you are accompanying me out and about, in non kink situations.
I enjoy things like playing fetch with a slave, or putting slaves in competitive games with one another for the amusement of those watching.
A few things that come to mind:

• Wrestling.. Oil and/or nudity possible.
• Races, with or without paddles, whips, etc as "encouragement"... sack races, 3 legged races, kinky relay races.. All those "kid games", but all grown up!
• Contests of will.. such as seeing which slave can delay orgasm the longest, while other slaves or free do their best to make you lose control.
• Slave rodeo games.

I'm sure I can think of LOTS more!
I have 20+ years of experience in various BDSM activities, and enjoy a WIDE range of things, both from the top and bottom perspective. That means that I am just as likely to be on a rack being worked over by someone at an event as I am to be working YOU over. In fact, There may well even be times that I put a nice, thuddy flogger, or other delicious implements in your hands and direct you to have a go at me until I tire of it. (or until you are genuinely unable to continue without risk to my property). Make no mistake, however... This in NO way alters our dynamic. I am in charge. Again.. my slaves exist to please me, regardless of what it is that may be pleasing to me at any given moment in time.
I do take pleasure in doing things that I know will make a slave happy, so I will definitely make a point of incorporating play or other things that I know you will enjoy. Sometimes I like to surprise a slave with something completely unexpected.
Well.. Okay.. I USUALLY like to do that, but once in a while, the surprise will be specifically calculated to delight the slave.

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This posting is a work in progress at the moment, and will be added to or changed as needed.

Questions and comments, especially ones that might help me make this post more comprehensive are more than welcome!

"Slave Rules" - A somewhat meandering list of what to expect in my collar.

 I included a good deal of information in my, "seeking slaves", post, but, it occurs to me that there is SOOO much more information to impart than what that post contains.
So, for those who wish more information, here it is!
Now, of course, there is no way to include each and every nuance of what life in my collar will be like, but I CAN supply a pretty comprehensive list of the basics and beyond.
Some things will be negotiable; Some will not. Many are sure to require effort on my part and that of the slave to implement, as habits take time to form, just as much as to break. This list is not in any particular order, and there will be overlap from the other postings.
This post contains rules, mainly. This post contains more information about things to expect.

• First and foremost: Take proper care of my property!

• I will be informed, fully and promptly of any and all health/safety issues (illness, injury, concerns, etc.).

• You will follow ALL of your doctor's and other medical professionals' orders and recommendations as regards your health and safety. We will make certain that your providers are kink aware and friendly, so this can be done properly.

• You will maintain a healthy diet, which will include at least two well balanced meals per day.

Note that this does not mean that you will be put on "a diet" or have the amount of food you eat restricted (except in the case of food addiction or other necessary health reasons, as meted out by your health care providers), but you will not be allowed to eat a steady diet of junk food, processed foods and fast food. Those things will be allowed only in moderation.

• Your primary purpose is to please me.

• You will strive to be pleasing and obedient to all free persons, within my rules and limits.

Even if you are unable to be pleasing and obedient, due to circumstances beyond your control (I do realise that some people are simply impossible to please, and/or refuse to respect the wishes of a slave's owner.), you will remain deferential and respectful, and will always promptly apologise when you have been found displeasing, REGARDLESS of whether it is reasonable. I will help you learn to balance personal safety and maintaining your place.

• Once the collar goes on, you will have no "rights". None! This is very important to understand! All privileges will be dispensed or removed at my whim.

Yes, you are human and have needs, and I consider it my duty to see to it that those needs are met, however, I do not owe a slave anything, and my slaves will remember that.. at the end of a lash, if necessary.

• You will be at my beck and call at all times.

I will not interfere with your work or family obligations, which is why you will keep me informed and up to date, with regard to your schedule, at all times. I have priority over non preplanned, non-family, social plans or outings, so if you schedule something without my okay, it will be your own fault if you have to cancel. I will not make you cancel plans with family, but if it is a non-emergency thing and I was not informed, you will be punished. Keep this in mind. All it takes is a quick message to me, letting me know you want to do something. I am very reasonable about these things, as long as you follow my directions.

• You will be expected to make certain that there is time in your schedule to spend at least a day or two a week with me, possibly overnight.

This does NOT obligate me to spend that amount of time with you. You exist to please and serve me, not the other way 'round. Never forget this.

• If you have children, they are your Number ONE Priority, at all times, no matter what!

This trumps the previous two rules. If I EVER find that you have neglected your children's needs, for any avoidable reason, there will be hell to pay!
This is completely NON NEGOTIABLE and is something likely to cause me to dismiss you from my service in disgrace, without hesitation.

• During some times when we are together, you will beg permission for most things. This includes, but is not limited to, eating, drinking, smoking, using furniture, putting on or removing clothing, including outerwear, or anything which requires you to leave my presence, however briefly.

The manner in which you will be expected to beg will depend on the circumstances and present company. For instance, in kink friendly situations, you will kneel and beg as an abject slave. In public, you will more likely ask politely to be excused or use codes or non verbal signals, with which I will provide you.

• You will provide me with detailed information about your fantasies, fears, and desires, so that I may more precisely tailor playtime with you and understand what makes you tick.

I often enjoy making a slave's fantasies come true. There are times that pleasing you will please me, and you are responsible for helping me to do that, when I so desire.

• you will be expected to keep a journal, in which you will be permitted to express anything at all, in any fashion you wish, without fear of punishment.

I will have access to said journal, but may or may not read it regularly. If there are entries that you specifically wish me to read, you will need to direct my attention to it and beg me to read it.

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This posting is a work in progress at the moment, and will be added to or changed as I see fit.

Questions and comments, especially ones that might help me make this post more comprehensive are more than welcome!

Seeking kajira

  Updated: 2022.04.26

For would be slaves who wish to serve me:

I have a primary slave who is, and will remain First Boy (AKA alpha slave).

I am seeking a lesbian or bisexual kajira to add to my household as a personal slave, who is either local or able to relocate.

A girl need not specifically be trained as "kajira". Kajira is simply the "Gorean" word for, "slave girl". If I own her, she will, by definition, be kajira, and I will train her to my specifications.

(I am also looking for a house slave, to assist with the heavier domestic duties, which have become too much for my boy, as he ages. Click here  for more information.)

Applicants wishing to be considered will:

• Take the time and effort to read this post, and my full profile in their entirety, before contacting me.
• Write a well worded, polite, and concise introduction, using proper spelling (UK or US spellings are fine, and if English is not your first language, that will be taken into consideration. It is the effort I am concerned with!), grammar, capitalisation and punctuation, telling me why you wish to serve me and what qualifications, skills, and/or traits you possess.
• Be rigorously and entirely honest; Both with me and in all areas of their lives. (Note: This does NOT mean giving out your personal information before we are ready to move to that level! That is simply foolish, and I have no use for a stupid or foolish slave!)
• Have a sincere desire to serve, please, and obey.
• Practice good personal hygiene and grooming.
• Be drama free.
• Have and maintain her own living quarters. This will not be a live-in position. (If relocating, I will, of course, do what I can to assist in finding appropriate housing).
  
• Be mature and capable of independence.
• Not be allergic or overly sensitive to cigar smoke. Cigar enthusiast a BIG plus!
• Like, and be able to be around animals, especially dogs. 
• Not try to "usurp", or  otherwise displace my first slave in any way. He was here first, and his position will be respected. 
• Be primarily FEMALE identified and bodied (bits need not be "original" equipment). That means, to be quite frank, have breasts, vulva, and a vagina, and be willing to be used sexually as a female, by a female. A boi or non-binary person is not out of the question, as long as they are cool with being related to, presented, and used primarily as a girl, at least a good portion of the time, so be secure in your gender stuff. I have no desire to fuck anyone up or contribute to dysphoria! TVs/CDs/sissies and non-op MtF need not apply. Pre-op MtF may be negotiable, depending on chemistry/fit and other factors.

My kajira will perform both domestic and personal duties, including being used sexually. Domestic service will include things such as cleaning, organizing, occasional cooking, miscellaneous household tasks, and occasionally entertaining guests. Personal service involves serving me food and drink, cigar service, pampering me with massages, foot service/pedicures, manicures, grooming, and the like, accompanying me to events or on errands, serving as my playtoy, and anything else that I decide will please me. She will never be required to be sexual with men, though will be permitted to on occasion if she desires and earns the privilege.

In turn, I will nurture, train, guide and cherish her as the jewel on my chain I require her to be, as she is consistently maintained and improved.

I expect slaves to obey, not necessarily without question, but without undue hesitation or unnecessary questioning, and to provide me, promptly, with any information that is relevant to the situation.

I also expect respect and deference to be shown to me and to all free persons at all times.
While I do not insist on "high protocol" all the time, preferring a more relaxed approach most of the time, the slavery will be absolute and I will NOT tolerate blatant disrespect, rudeness, drama, attempted manipulation, "topping from the bottom", or disobedience. Those will be punished quickly and, if continued, will result in dismissal.

I would prefer a girl who has had at least some training, however, applicants will not be disregarded solely because they do not. A sincere desire to learn, obey, and be pleasing is far more important to me than prior training. I will train you to suit my preferences, either way.

I do not take ownership lightly, nor do I stand for "Velcro collars".
Once the collar is on, it is on. If it comes off, it stays off. (This does not apply to temporary, physical removal, as may be needed for medical or other purposes.)

I am not interested in solving all your problems for you, relieving you of your responsibilities as an adult, or excessive micromanaging.

I own slaves in order to make my life more pleasant, not to add troubles. That said, I will provide guidance, encouragement, and support in areas of self improvement, with the expectation that you will do the footwork required.

I enjoy many aspects of BDSM and I am a sadist. When we play, I will not take you beyond what you can handle, but I WILL push your limits and you will not necessarily enjoy everything I do to you, but will take what I dish out in order to please me, so you may bask in the glow of approval that comes with a job well done. I enjoy screams and moans of pleasure just as much as I enjoy those of pain, so it will not all be for my pleasure alone. What it will always be is at my whim.

Any potential slave initially met online will be interviewed and we will communicate online, followed by telephone/voice/Skype contact, to see if it seems like we are compatible.
If it seems likely, we will arrange to meet in a neutral and public location, where we will talk further and get to know one another a bit more. If that meeting is productive and positive, we will meet again, as many times as needed for both of us to feel comfortable moving to the next level.

If all that goes well, the slave will undergo a period of consideration, during which, she will receive training and will serve me as though in my collar, until she has proven herself, AND she feels ready to commit to becoming my property.
Questions in response to this post are welcome, AFTER you have read the entire post and my profile, to see if your question has already been answered.

Responses that contain "net speak", lack of punctuation, S/slashy T/typing, or rudeness will likely be ignored, as will questions that are already answered in this post or my profile.

**While the parts of your appearance over which you have no immediate control are largely unimportant, I insist that you make the effort to properly bathe and groom yourself routinely, and wear clean clothing. I understand that many of us cannot afford "nice" clothing, but it doesn't cost anything to make the effort to present oneself by making sure that you, and what you have is clean and neat!

A couple of additional posts, detailing many of my rules and other things to expect in my collar, can be found here (rules), and here (misc).

Here is another thing, just because. A letter to my kajira.