What I am Not Seeking in a Dynamic

This is parts of the OP that were removed, to this new post, to make the other one less objectionable.

As noted in the main "seeking" post, I am not interested in being owned again. I have come to value my rights and freedoms too much to be a slave, and I have also come to realise I am just not well suited to slavery. That doesn't mean I will not be obedient - it just means I want to retain some rights.

The dynamic I seek does involve negotiations, limits, and allows me to retain many of the rights and status of a free woman, including the right to decide, ultimately, to whom I will or will not defer, the continuing ownership of my own property, including my human property, and being permitted to speak freely in public, within reason, and subject, of course, to specific limitations placed on me by my [Sir/Dom/Boss/D-type], and the proper bounds of a free woman. 

Publicly, and, by this I mean in general, day to day life and in interactions with my peers, especially those within the Gorean community, I desire to maintain the status of free woman, so that I will not be subject to the expectations placed upon a slave, except during certain times mutually agreed to or deemed necessary, and even then, only within parameters which do not damage my standing as a free woman.

I realise that I clearly wish to, as it is said, "have my cake and eat it too". I further understand that many may find such selfish in the extreme and perhaps even deplorable, but I submit my thoughts and needs in full transparency, that interested parties may better know if this fits with what they seek, or whether they would prefer to move on.
I do not require (or particularly desire) extreme micromanaging, nor am I looking for a boyfriend, daddy, lover, or someone to rescue me (other than from my own foibles, perhaps), fix my problems, or do my footwork for me.

When I say I am not looking for a sexual or romance focused dynamic, I mean that this is ideal for a man who is specifically looking for a power dynamic because he gets something out of being the boss - being in charge, moulding and shaping a person into something better, being obeyed, setting rules and enforcing them, being served for the sake of service, etc, and gets his sexual and romantic needs met elsewhere, rather than one who is looking for a relationship or sex with a D/s component.
Granted, with the right person and circumstances, attraction may develop naturally, and I am not opposed to that, but if it is in any way your goal, we have different priorities and I am not interested.

Likewise, if you have trouble understanding how a D/s dynamic could work without a sexual or romantic component, your focus and mine most likely do not mesh, I am not what you want, and I do not wish to waste your time or mine with something which will not work.

Additionally, I live alone, other than the grandchild I am raising, and plan to continue to do so. I will not be relocating or cohabiting with any other adults. I am also poly, and will not permit interference in my other relationships. (these two points are absolutely non-negotiable).